I‘ve decided I’m not just going to write monthly like i normally do but I’ll write only when I’m inspired and when I have something worth reading. This, I think might be worth your time.
It Is Personal
If there’s anything I hate is feeling sorry for myself, anytime I’m unhappy about a situation I whisper to myself “ Lolade stop feeling sorry for yourself! If you don’t like it, change it. It’s like knowing cheese, makes me sick, and still eating them. I can’t just stop, It’s not that simple, they are delicious!
How many times have I heard, Whatever you don‘t like in your life change it, It‘s been so many times I’m thinking if it were that easy everyone would be doing it. The question is, What if I can’t change it? What if I’m too weak to change it? What if I don’t have what it takes to change it? What if I need help, like I need somebody to give me a boost? I think the later is my favorite one, I always feel like I need someone to help me, Until lately I had a wake up call that “ Whatever you want, all you need is YOU. You have to show up first! You can’t always depend on people, even when you have people in your life that are dependable and will do anything for you. Example, my husband will do anything for me, But he can’t always be my plan to make things happen.
You Are In Charge
Sometimes I feel like I have no control over what is happening to me but that is untrue, I am in charge! God has put me in control of my life, my feelings and I shouldn’t allow someone or something else to control It.
No one is in charge of anything happening in your life, You are. You are in charge of everything including your dreams coming true. Stop praying that somebody will see you, Pray for you to see you. I think we underestimate how much we can accomplish if we set our mind to it and overestimate how much somebody can do for us, I think we will see more result in our lives when we start looking within, I love the scripture that says God is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think according to the power that works within us. The power is within us!
I concluded that the reason people sometimes don’t take us seriously is because they haven’t seen us take it seriously. Whatever the “it” is for you. Don’t blame anyone for why “it“ is not working, the future will always be bleak until we take responsibility for the outcome.
The proof that you really want something is you show up. If nobody is there, if no one is ready, You are. Being present in your own life and situation means life doesn‘t just happen to you, You take control and you don’t leave things to chance and definitely not to anyone.
This thought came to me when I was feeling sorry for myself about what somebody won’t do for me because they were unavailable or better still not taking me seriously, I was feeling bad about it and then I realized how much I was allowing that person to control the situation, I told myself, If you want something done rather than feeling sorry for yourself that no one will help you, the question you need to be asking is, How can I do this with or without anyone.
Don’t allow what you don’t have to stop you from what you want, ask yourself how can I do it anyway? You will find a way, I’ve realized there is always a way. It’s like that time when the cashier told me there is no discount available and I kept asking if there’s a possibility of one, I mean I asked like 4 times and finally walked out of that store with a 40% off or another time when the receptionist told me “ Sorry you were late for your appointment we can no longer take you today and I politely asked her “ What if somebody else is late can I take their spot? Of course she said “ Yes! Again there is always a way.
Life happens, People disappoints, we don’t always have everything all the time, but that shouldn’t stop us from pursuing what we want. Don’t be absent waiting for things to just fall in place, it never does, you have to be determined to make stuff happen despite some things or some people.
The most important thing is whatever matters to you please show up for yourself, Be present in it and don’t let anyone else determine your outcome.
“Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us,”
Ephesians 3:20 KJV
Thank you for reading